Texts You Should Never Respond To (What His Text Really Means)
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“Hey”
Dating coach Adam LoDolce calls this random text (which can also come in the form of “sup” or “yo”) the “weak attempt.” Yes, the guy’s thinking about you, but he’s not thinking hard enough. Text back if you like him, but don’t bother if you’re not sure about him.
“Where you at?”
If you get this message on a Friday or Saturday night, it’s likely that the guy is hitting you up as a last resort.
“Can I come over?”
This is the “I’m drunk and horny” text, LoDolce says, and is typically sent after midnight on a weekend night. Don’t respond unless you’re equally down for a booty call.
“Want to meet up later?”
If a guy sends you this message before 8 p.m., it shows he’s being proactive in his attempt to see you, LoDolce says. But, if all he does is text you, and you want to see some more effort, tell him you prefer to talk on the phone. “This will separate the guys who want a relationship from the ones who don’t,” he says. “If he calls, it’s a fair assumption that he’s interested in something more than just a booty call.”
7 Places You Won’t Meet The Love Of Your Life
Sunday, January 20, 2013
1. The club.
The club is meant for throwing up vodka Red Bulls in a bathroom stall while crying. The club is meant for giving the side-eye to hair-gelled assholes in the corner getting bottle service at their table. It’s for dancing to David Guetta and/or Pitbull songs and grinding your genitals against a stranger until your friends pull you away because they’re afraid you’re going to get herpes through your jeans. The club is meant for everything but finding lasting love, and we shouldn’t ask of it things it cannot provide.
2. At your ex’s place.
Don’t go back there. There is nothing for you. There is no magic end to this story wherein, after seventeen break-up-to-make-ups, you go over to your ex’s apartment (in the rain, of course) and suddenly have a Nicholas Sparks-esque Reuniting Moment in their foyer while you tell each other all of the things you did wrong and lick tears off each other’s faces. No. You’re just going to break up again. We like going back to the ex because it’s familiar, and easy, and it’s possible that the sex is bangin. But we cannot get swayed by these cheap ideals because they are ultimately unfulfilling, and if it didn’t work the first ten times, it’s not working now.
3. Facebook.
I’m sure we’ve all had a moment where we found a friend of a friend — perhaps from popping up on our “recommended” sidebar, perhaps just from thorough creeping — and we briefly fell in love. We may have met them once or twice (not sure, though), and can see enough of their profile to ascertain that they are beautiful and don’t seem like a serial killer. But there is no way to open this conversation. There is no way to go from “basically strangers” to “date night” via Facebook. At some point, you’re going to have to look like an insane person and initiate conversation at random. It’s just not worth it.
Texts You Should Never Respond To (What His Text Really Means)
Friday, January 18, 2013
Here are tips from experts on which messages you should respond to—and which you should ignore for your own good.
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“Hey”
Dating coach Adam LoDolce calls this random text (which can also come in the form of “sup” or “yo”) the “weak attempt.” Yes, the guy’s thinking about you, but he’s not thinking hard enough. Text back if you like him, but don’t bother if you’re not sure about him.
“Where you at?”
If you get this message on a Friday or Saturday night, it’s likely that the guy is hitting you up as a last resort.
“Can I come over?”
This is the “I’m drunk and horny” text, LoDolce says, and is typically sent after midnight on a weekend night. Don’t respond unless you’re equally down for a booty call.
“Want to meet up later?”
If a guy sends you this message before 8 p.m., it shows he’s being proactive in his attempt to see you, LoDolce says. But, if all he does is text you, and you want to see some more effort, tell him you prefer to talk on the phone. “This will separate the guys who want a relationship from the ones who don’t,” he says. “If he calls, it’s a fair assumption that he’s interested in something more than just a booty call.”
7 Deadly sins of dating
Friday, January 11, 2013
Don’t say that you weren’t warned! Nothing can kill a budding relationship faster than one of the seven dating mistakes below.
1. RUSHING INTO SEX
There isn’t a universal right time to become intimate with a new partner, however, if you have sex before a man has had a chance to get to know you, then you risk him placing you in the “fling” category and losing interest. A man has to invest and appreciate your other qualities beyond the physical for him to want to make you his girlfriend. So don’t be afraid to take your time and make him wait until it feels right for you; the “three date rule” is a myth!
2. OPENING UP TOO FAST
Likewise, it isn’t smart to rush in and tell him all of your sad childhood stories. Although it’s natural to want to speed up the bonding process, you have to pace the amount of information you share. You don’t want to scare him off with TMI or convince him that you’re a high-drama mamma.
3. CALLING/TEXTING/EMAILING TOO MUCH
While it’s true that we live in an age of over-sharing, you’ll just have to trust us on this one and play it cool. Men typically enjoy playing the role of the chaser, not the chasee, so constantly calling them can have the reverse effect of making them less interested, not more. So put down that phone, slowly back away from the computer, and let him sweat it out for a change.
27 Subtle Signs She Wants You
Sunday, May 20, 2012
Women can be hard to read. But sometimes they throw off covert signals that scream, “I want you!” Here’s what to look for:
1. I Use Your First Name - I call you by your first name instead of your nickname, because, babe, I’m not one of your buds, nor do I intend to become one.
2. I Wear Lip Gloss - I apply lip gloss often, but not in your presence. (If you witness makeup application of any sort, start calling yourself Chandler—you’re officially a friend.)
3. I Rub My Lips Together - I rub my lips together often in your presence.
4. I’m on the Edge of My Seat - I sit at the edge of my seat.
5. I Talk to You on My Birthday - It’s my birthday, and I’m still talking to you 10 minutes after you bought me a drink. (Note: Birthday girls of any age are easy—doubly so at decade markers.)
6. I Order a Beer - Instead of merlot, I order a Corona, which, conveniently, is served in a bottle—the better to sexily sip from.
7. My Speech Pattern Changes - My speech pattern is starting to resemble, like, Kirsten Dunst’s.
8. I Talk to You While You Smoke - You smoke. I don’t. Yet I’m talking to you.
9. I Touch You - I touch you (for any reason) more than once.
10. I Laugh When Nothing’s Funny - I laugh, frequently and nervously, even amid humorless conversation.
- The Love Whisperer is patient and kind. The Love Whisperer does not envy, does not boast and is not proud. The Love Whisperer does not dishonor others, is not self-seeking, is not easily angered. The Love Whisperer keeps no record of wrongs. The Love Whisperer does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. The Love Whisperer always protects, always trusts, always hopes and always perseveres. [1]
For one task we have the Dog Whisperer; for the other we need the Love Whisperer. The Love Whisperer quietly guides us back to our hearts. The Love Whisperer dwells in your own heart and soul. All you have to do is turn up the volume to hear its mantra: “Choose love, choose love, choose love.” [2]
Hugs since 1.25.13
Sunday, February 17, 2013
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