Wednesday, May 9, 2012
How to move on, are there any steps I could take when moving on?
It’s a common question and the idea of having certain steps when moving is indeed true. Actually, these steps or stages as a whole is a basic theory in Psychology.
Everyone suffering from a loss undergo series of stages. These stages are what we call The Grieving Process or The Stages of Coping. Whether it is a loss coming from a failed relationship, loss of a love one or anything or anyone dear to you, all stages are the same. You may not know this before, but you’ve been through these stages nonetheless.
The Grieving Process / Stages of Coping
There are five steps in the grieving process; Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. However, the time spent in each step or stage is different to every individual. How to get there and when you will get there depends on the weight on how you perceive the situation you are in and your willingness to do so, but eventually you will.
Do you often say no and that you refuse to accept the fact that the relationship is over? Do you still believe that one day this person will come back knocking on your door? Then, you must be in the stage of denial.
There’s nothing wrong in hoping but sometimes you have to keep your hopes real. You can’t keep living on lies and empty promises, can you? Pretending isn’t gonna make what you are having now any less real. The sooner you accept things, the sooner you move on, this is the first task.